Pain, frustration, depression, anxiety, memory lapses

By mrsrjg on Tue, 02-21-12, 11:36

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Let me preface this by stating that my husband does stand by me and has through all of my issues, of which there are many. He is generally supportive and a good man. However, the comments he often makes make me want to crawl out of my skin and scream with frustration. I want to slap him sometimes, horrible I know and no I never do.

My fibro pain has been really intense lately and all that accompanies it I manage quite well but I do have moments where I break. Last night for example after the kids were in bed and it was late I got teary-eyed due to how I was feeling. He yells at me and rolls his eyes and proclaims he's tired of seeing me in so much pain. I understand it's horrible for him to watch me go through this after all this time, 9 years. I realize this is not easy for anyone but stressing me out more with him being upset that I break down.

I don't have a very good short-term memory or heck even a long-term one anymore. My TBI has affected me more so than I previous thought it possible but again I deal with it. He told me he's tired of me saying "I don't know/remember." It's not like I have an option to remember or forget things. I do write things down constantly but no I do not keep a running log of all of our conversations. I feel if I did I would have no time to do anything else.

I don't know what else I can do to make things easier for myself or for ourselves. I am doing what I feel I can do and if anyone knows of anything else please let me know. This is not a new situation at all we've been dealing with all of this for 9 years, though I was at the end of last year diagnosed with fibro. My depression and anxiety/PTSD/TBI have been there for almost a decade. Anyone have any advice?

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By marcie on Tue, 02-21-12, 20:17

It would be very helpful if you have made an appointment with your doctor and your husband could be present, this way, after the doctor's description of your symptoms and also because this is a medical doctor who is explaining, your husband should comprehend the whole situation and the side effects. You are not inventing the problems, they are there. Wishing you all the happiness. God bless you.

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By mrsrjg on Wed, 02-22-12, 10:44

Thank you for that input. He has gone with me to several appointments starting with the very first so he knows from a medical doc first-hand what's going on with me. I believe part of it is the fact that I cannot seem to find any true relief be it medicinal or otherwise. I try my best to manage myself proactively and through natural means but I also know that sometimes meds will prove to be the best treatment course. When I go to my doc in April I plan to address the fact that I've tried his(the doctor's)recommendations and I've personally tried to do my best but it's time to start on a medication of some type. I realize that process is trial and error but you never know until you try.

Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will.
--Gandhi

The doorstep to the temple of wisdom is a knowledge of our own ignorance.
--Benjamin Franklin

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By Jayce202 on Wed, 02-22-12, 21:58

I have been with a pain management doctor for the last 10 years, he is a Godsend! Appropriate medications are absolutely the way to go from the way it sounds like you are feeling M. There is no reason for you to endure being in hurt and misery the psychic vulnerability pain can cause.

You are not being "weak" when you "give in" to pain and seek solace!

The human body can only take so much abuse - pain is an indicator (not the only one) of either injury or dysfunction and needs to be addressed if chronic.
Pain medication can free you to focus your attention on other things besides your body. Along with medication is a whole slew of strategies and therapies you can use - ranging from meditation to hydrotherapy to exercise and dozens more ideas. But you probably know this. My advice for that is to get super educated about the system of pain management and the pitfalls/tips and tricks.

Jay

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